7. MI strengthens your commitment to change.
An MI coach might ask (or you could ask yourself), “on a scale of 0-10, where 0 is totally insignificant, and 10 is your top priority in life, how important is this change for you, at this moment?”
This is likely to elicit what’s important about this change or goal for you. An MI coach will attend to statements that you make in favour of change (known as ‘change talk’, Miller and Rollnick, 2013) and skillfully reflect them back to you. You can write them down if you’re self-coaching. This serves to build your motivation and strengthen your commitment to change.
8. MI builds your confidence.
MI can help build your confidence by drawing upon your strengths, resources and past successes. An MI coach might explore your perceived ability to make a change, so that your confidence can be boosted when needed. For example, an MI coach might use scaling to ask, “on a scale of 0-10, where 0 is rock bottom, and 10 is beaming confidence, how would you describe your confidence to make this change?”
An MI coach can also use affirmations to build confidence, such as:
- “I’m in awe of your resilience and the way you have bounced back.”
- “Wow. Even though this is challenging for you, you are determined to make it happen.”
- “I admire your courage in taking that step.”
You can use self-affirmations too: some of my coachees like to make affirmations posters with the sentence starters “I am..” and “I can…”
9. MI goes at your pace.
MI is often described as a ‘dance’ towards change. A tentative salsa step forward. And back. A sudden tango charge forward together. And stop. Then an enormous ballet jeté across the stage together. An MI coach will invite you to become ‘dance partners’, tune into which style of ‘dance’ suits your journey toward change, and dance with you in the idea of change, at your pace.
If you’re self-coaching, it can help to have an accountability partner to help you keep pace and momentum. This is built into my self-coaching tool.
10. If/when you are ready to make the change, MI helps you make a plan and stick with it.
You may decide that you prefer not to make the change and that’s totally up to you (autonomy 😉). If you do find momentum towards change and you feel ready to take action, MI coaching can support you to consider what steps you might take. This is known as the ‘planning’ stage (Figure 2). MI coaching can also support with accountability and helping you to stick with your plan.
If you are considering career change or career growth, MI can help you to choose what’s right for you, get focused, get unstuck, build confidence, find forward momentum and take action towards positive change. These ideas can be applied within coaching, supervision and/or self-coaching.
It’s totally up to you what you do next, of course. Here are some next steps to consider:
- You could use my FREE MI self-coaching tool to explore an area of career change or growth.
- You might not want to miss my SUMMER COACHING GIVEAWAY: I’m offering 6 x FREE 30-min coaching sessions to the first 6 qualified EPs to email me. We can arrange a mutually convenient time over the summer to meet via Zoom.
p.s. Are you still wondering ‘what’s the difference between coaching and supervision?’ Read my blog on that here…
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Miller, W. R., & Rollnick, S. (2013). Motivational interviewing: Helping people change (3rd ed.). New York: The Guildford Press.
Miller, W. R., & Rollnick, S. (2009). Ten Things that Motivational Interviewing Is Not. Behavioural and Cognitive Psychotherapy, 37, 129–140.